I hope to learn a lot here.

A Look At The Brighter Side
“No quality of life?” or “The perfect child.”

They say, “He’ll have no quality of life. He will never walk or run, jump or play.”
I say, “He will never stomp his feet in rebellion or run away.”
They say, “He will never talk or laugh or sing.”
I say, “He will never talk back, utter words in defiance, gossip or lie. He does laugh and he makes music in my heart. I think he is the perfect child.”

They say, “ He has no quality of life. He is visually impaired or may be blind.”
I say, “That may be, but he won’t give haughty looks, or become addicted to pornography.”
They say, “He will have to be fed through a tube or hand fed all his life.”
I say, “I will never have to worry about him taking drugs or too much alcohol, or spoiling his dinner with junk food. I know that his meals will always be nutritious, giving him the best health possible. I think he is the perfect child.”

They say, “He has no quality of life. See here? His hands are dismorfic, he has rocker bottom feet, the bridge of his nose is too wide, he has ‘cow-licks’ all over his head and a big red birth mark right in the middle of his forehead!”
I say, “Better a ‘cow-lick’ than a ‘moose-lick’! and as for that birthmark? Why, that is Gods thumbprint, the seal of approval on a perfect creation! I think he is the perfect child.”

They say, “He has no quality of life. He has holes in his heart.”
I say, rather holes in his heart than in his eyebrows, lips, or bellybuttons. Besides, “Don’t we all have holes in are heart that need healing?”
They say, “He will never be able to ride a bike, or tear open presents at Christmas time!”
I say, “His life is simple, He is simply content. He won’t covet the neighbor’s toys. In fact, he will have no ‘wants’, and Christmas will be more meaningful.
They say, “But you will always have to change his diapers!”
To that I say, “Change is good! I think he is the perfect child”

They say, “ He has no quality of life. He won’t sleep at night, he will rise long before the sun comes up ready to start his day and YOU won’t get any rest!”
And I say, “Did not Jesus rise long before the sun came up? And He IS who gives us quality of life. When we go to be with Him, we will not need sleep, for we will be fully rested!”

They say, “ He has no quality of life. He will never be able to drive a car. He will be in a wheelchair at a very young age.”
I say, “He may never have the keys to the car, but he will always hold the keys to my heart. There will be no nights lying awake worrying if there’s been an accident, or if he is broke down on the side of the road. And by the way, how old were you when you got YOUR first set of wheels?”

They say, “He will never marry or have a family of his own.”
I say, “That is true, but there will never be premarital sex , unwanted pregnancies and he will never experience the heartache of a divorce. I think he is the perfect child”

They say, “Take him home, he is going to die soon. He will never make it to his first birthday.”
And I say, “I’ll take my baby home. None of us are guaranteed another birthday, but that he IS guaranteed is a place in heaven, a perfect place, free from the ridicules of the world, full of peace, love, and joy. He has the hope of salvation, The hope of life eternal, the hope that some of us know we have, others hope to have and sadly, some of us will never know. Now who is really the blessed one? I know he IS the perfect child!”

Inspired by God
Written by Lori Reite
(Mother of Tucker Reite born with full trisomy 13)

Many parents of special needs children are familier with the poem, “A trip to Holland” about a person who made all the arrangements and are excited about their trip to Italy, and somewhere in the air their plane is diverted to Holland. It depics what the parents feel when finding out their child was born with special needs. We chose to make that trip to Holland the best trip ever, In fact we enjoyed it so much that we went back! Lori