Who Do You Love More?
Posted on October 13, 2010
Filed Under Focus on the Family Broadcast, Marriage, Parenting, Spiritual Life
The innocent six year-old looked at her daddy and asked, “Who do you love more, Mom or me?”
He answered thoughtfully, “Honey, I love your Mommy more than you.” Ted went on to explain about the nature of a marital love, and how it is different than a parent’s love for a child. Still, there was a bit of “wow factor” associated with the comment.
I thought, “Well, that’ll ruffle a few feathers, but I think he’s right.”
And when we invited listeners to weigh in on their thoughts, we received an avalanche of response! Samples:
- In response to today’s broadcast, she is saying she agrees with Juli. She would never tell her children she loves her husband more than she loves them. She said it’s a different kind of love she has for her husband.
- …disagrees with Ted Cunningham and believes that children need to hear “I love you” from their parents with out distinguishing who you love more because they are unable to comprehend the differences. As they become adults – then it is important to help him learn about leaving and cleaving – as well as the importance of loving God more than any human.
- …wanted to comment about the broadcast. She agrees with what was said..it is a different kind of love that we have for our husband than our children, but also that we need to have our husbands come after the Lord.
- …called in response to John Fuller’s invitation at the end of the broadcast. She agrees that most marriages today are too kid-centric. Her husband left her after the kids were grown because he did not “leave and cleave” as Scripture says to do.
- Agrees with Juli that it is a gender issue when talking with your children regarding your love for your spouse. Men and women just approach it differently.
- …God intended for the marriage relationship to be valued above the child/parent relationship. Even going thru a divorce I see this and its tough to admit, but that’s the way it is.
- …said he always tells his kids that he loves his wife more than them because he has known her longer. He said, “No way, no how would he put his kids before his wife cause they gonna grow up and leave him and she will still be there.”
- …wanted to let us know that it was a little bit inappropriate that we aired something like a father telling a 6 year old that he loves mommy more than her. It might be right, but a 6 year old cannot understand that that easy.
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