Dad, Remember The Days

Posted on April 24, 2011 
Filed Under Fathering, Focus on the Family Broadcast, Parenting, Personal, Photo

I recently had the privilege of being a guest on the Focus on the Family radio program, talking about my book, First Time Dad: The Stuff You Really Need To Know. In the book I’ve tried to offer new fathers an optimistic, and realistic, look at expectations about parenting.

As I’ve reflected on my fatherhood journey, there are many wonderful memories. I was asked to pull together some photographs capturing a few of my favorite moments. Here are just a few…I’ve got so many times with our kids etched upon my mind. And if you stop by, lots of them are posted on my office wall, too!

Looking back over the years, wondering how in the world our  two oldest boys are are now adults out in the workforce, I can only say. “Dad, remember the days. Drink them in…because they go by mighty quickly. Maximize the times you spend with those kids God has blessed you with, and make it your goal to become their best friend.”

Now, someone grab a tissue for me?

A proud first time dad! Here’s John with Dakota, in 1990. Time has sped by quickly - he graduates from college next month!

In 1991 John and Dena welcomed Seth into the family. What a fine young man!

Wonderful memories of fishing at Rainbow Falls with the boys in celebration of Seth’s 4th birthday. These moments don’t just happen – it takes some work and planning to make special times happen.

Our kids have always enjoyed the water. And we’ve had lots of trips to various campgrounds. Here are the three oldest “cooling their heels” in Jenny Lake, Teton National Park in 1995. One of my favorite pictures!


5 Responses to “Dad, Remember The Days”

  1. Judy on April 25th, 2011 9:40 am

    I was just listening to the radio program. I heard you guys talking about the dads needing to know that they have their most important work left to do when they get home from their “job”. It is the same thing for working moms. I work at a CPA office and the first four to five months of the year are so busy. Today’s broadcast helped remind me that it is still important to have that quality family time even when you feel like you have no time. Our family should come first!

  2. jacob elrod on April 25th, 2011 11:05 am

    Please Please don’t throw your baby in the air. This isn’t a concern about dropping the baby, while that happens that is not the most damaging effect. The injuries to the child are unseen because it happens inside the childs head.
    Its called shaken baby syndrome. Don’t believe me…try this and then consider Recanting your advice on the all future speaking engagements about giving a baby a quick thrill as you toss them in the air.
    Take a small glass jar with alid. Ie, empty pickle jar, empty canning jar. Make it small, like the size of an infants head. Then place a raw, hard uncooked egg inside. Close the lid tightly and try gently throwing the jar in the air no higher than you would lovingly toss an infant. Attempt to toss the jar without cracking the egg.
    What this represents is the little infants newly forming brain. The baby’s brain is still not securely tethered to all the walls of the skull until the child is maybe 3 years old. The soft brain is wrapped inside a protective sack. When a child is shaken or tossed the brain “sloshes” inside the hard skull and bangs against the walls. Much like the egg, the yolk inside breaks and the brain fluid leaks out. When the brain is bruised it can easily cause massive brain injury, blindness, mental retardation and even death.
    I know you love your kids as do almost all parents. But please please reconsider your statements that its ok to lovingly toss a baby in the air, because the child likes it, or that it helps the child to get used to motion and not get Car sick.
    Just loving message of care from one father to another. Courtesy of education given to me from Exchange Club, Service club of America. Whose main cause is Child Abuse Prevention and Awareness.

    Jacob Elrod
    Exchange Club of Lima

  3. marlene on April 25th, 2011 7:04 pm

    After teaching in public schools and at a local community college for about 21 years–I see the “hurt” of not having a dad’s support. Many of my students never knew their father. I have noticed that when the dad did just one thing special for their child–they never forget it and it is always the one thing that continues to give them hope. With all the budget woes in the state governments regarding education–I have the solution–get the family on the right track and we can cut a lot of programs. Government can’t do what a dad and a mom are suppose to do.
    PS. My husband and I love the Tetons and Jenny Lake is beautiful.

  4. JohnFuller on April 26th, 2011 3:12 pm

    Jacob, thank you for your concerns and the reminder. I’d never advocate any unsafe behavior with a child. I was referring more to the typical (and relatively gentle) “toss” and movement many dads do with their toddler/preschooler. Shaken baby syndrome is a serious matter, and this is a good reminder to be appropriate with our children. Thanks for listening and caring enough to leave a comment.


  5. Debbie on April 28th, 2011 4:05 am

    Loved the show! It was nice to “get to know” you better and to hear more about your family. Thanks for your book. I know many families will be blessed by it. I don’t have it yet, but I was certainly blessed by your words of wisdom in this broadcast…what I will always remember is the comment you shared…something like “the circus comes every year, but childhood doesn’t”…great stuff! God Bless Y’all!

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